Holy Week Spiritual (Cyber) Retreat For All

I am making this announcement on March 3, in observance of the feast of St. Aelred.

This is an invitation to our annual Lenten Spiritual Retreat. And indeed, by all accounts, it has always been a special day of recollection and spiritual insights for those who attend. We have them every Good Friday from 9 a.m.-5 p.m., including dinner and two meriendas for up to thirty people. No charge.

This year we want to open up the retreat for all the hundreds on our SAeF mailing lists. Although it is aimed for the enlightenment of LGBT people on LGBT spirituality, of course it applies to all people everywhere, even Opus Dei, if they have ears to hear and the Spirit to listen.
This year, Holy Week is only two weeks from now. This year, our Lenten-Holy Week Retreat will be a cyber retreat with participants all around the globe. It’s a gigantic international Lenten-Holy Week retreat. The theme is: Spirituality is for God’s children who are LGBT, too.

Lent is the traditional retreat season. Have you had a chance in your busy life to take time for your spirituality this Lent? Here is a unique opportunity.

You don’t have to come over here with the transportation problems of Good Friday. You don’t have to eat our meatless arroz caldo. You can cook your own lunch wherever you are, but you can have a leisurely day of recollection communicating with me through email.

Another good thing about this cyber retreat is that you can work, contemplate, meditate at your own pace. You don’t have to do it all in one sitting, or even in one day. And even more fun would be to do the retreat together with a prayer partner at places and times of your convenience.

For those men and women in St. Aelred Seminary preparing for the priesthood, it will count as a one-credit subject upon completion.

It’s very simple. There are some “talks.” After each talk, you will send an email to me (Fr. Richard) commenting on some aspect of the talk. In those places where it is appropriate, I will interact with you on your comments.

So, therefore, after each talk, click on my email, and send me your comments. Simple as that. That’s your 2008 Lenten Spiritual Retreat. Wear whatever you are comfortable in.

Fr. Richard




Spirituality is for LGBT people, too
St. Aelred Lenten-Holy Week Spiritual Retreat
2008
St. Aelred Monastery, Quezon City, Philippines
(A Cyber Retreat)

Preface

The following progression of “talks” accompanied by appropriate exercises and retreat dynamics was experienced by a wonderful LGBT “family” on April 6, 2007. The progression begins with obstacles to LGBT spirituality, self-esteem, and efforts to live in God's friendship. It establishes what is bad, and what is good, better, best in sexual expression. The later talks are devoted to exposing how LGBT people can progress in spiritual development from good to better to best.

Theme

Today we are embarking on a mission of truth. In fact, it is a mission to find the truth and shake ourselves free from untruth. One author has fortuitously used the expression that for too long we have been in moral slavery, slaves to a “moral”” system that neither comes from God nor from the Bible. A “system” of “rights and wrongs” that bind us to what people tell us we have to do or not do.

Most of us are Christians in this country and in this retreat, but we have with us today some friends who are not Christian, but who have the same yearning for truth and spirituality as all of us. Those of us who are Moslem and Christian, it should be remembered, have the same God, Allah or God the Father. ( In Indonesia, a predominantly Moslem nation, the Catholics call God Allah, just as the people of Islam do.)

We will try our best today for everything in our retreat to apply equally to all. No matter what the name of our religion, we are going to take a look today at some spiritual truths for LGBT people. We need to reclaim our rights as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender people. We want to be free from the shackles of moral slavery. We need to get back our right to the joy of knowing God’s love and friendship.

Let me tell you little story, a story which is too true. Jason is a ten-year old child who went to church on Sunday with the family. On the way home Jason turned to his gay brother, Andy, 18, and asked him, seriously, and with tears in his eyes, “Are you really going to burn in the fires of hell forever because you are gay? What’s an abomination?”

That’s what the preacher had said in the sermon. Little Jason was more upset by it than Andy. Andy is one of those LGBT persons who are not blindly accepting the fires of hell anymore. Let’s take some time today and get a good look at the truth.


Talk 1: “SIN: Barrier to the Truth”

We believe there is such a thing as sin. We believe sin separates us from God. But the truth is: not everything they tell us is sin – is sin. That’s what we have to get clear.

1. For the first exercise in our cyber retreat, make a list of what you would include in a “list of sins,” especially for LGBT people. Please write down your list of sins and email the list to saintaelred@gmail.com


Let’s just be sure from the very beginning that

SEX IS NOT SIN.

Almost 2000 years ago St. Augustine came up with the idea that sex was only for a married man and woman to have a baby, and they could have sex once a year, under the covers, with their clothes on. Get in there fast. Get out fast; make the baby, and don’t enjoy it.

That is an extreme picture of the “Sex is bad” theory.

When a same-sex couple comes to me for a wedding, I always ask them, “What do you say if some one tells you, ‘It is a sin for you to have sex with your same-sex partner’”?

I am pleased that more and more couples these days are saying, “I don’t believe it is a sin. We love each other. Love can’t be a sin.”

That’s wonderful and true. Still there are too many people who believe the “sex is sin” theory.

To make a long story short, we should not put labels on acts, and call them sin. “Is it a sin to kill somebody?” Most people immediately answer, “Yes, of course, it is a sin to kill.” But, if a one year old child picks up a gun and kills somebody, is that act of killing a “sin”? It’s not the act (doing something, killing) that automatically makes it sin. Automatic list of “sins” is moral slavery. We have long been a slave to “masturbation is a sin,” “It is a sin to use condoms.” “Only a married man and woman can have sex (hopefully to make a baby).” “No sex ever in your whole life in any way if God brings you into this world with a same-sex attraction.”

If you want to keep on judging what is sin, you have look at all the circumstances around it, not just the act listed in a list of sins.

There really should not be
such a thing as a “list or book of sins.”
That is because sin is in the person,
in the intentions,
in all the factors in the situation around an act.
And not in the list in a book of sins.

For example, if a man and woman, married with six kids, struggling to feed them and send them to school, use condoms, is it a sin? Maybe a better question is: Is it a sin for them not to use condoms? Because of the consequences, it may well be far more sinful if they don’t use birth control when they have sex. In addition, sex is their right as human beings. Why should the price of sex be child number 7, 8, 9, or 13? Not because the child is bad, but because it is bad to bring children into the world that they cannot care for.

What does that have to do with us who are L, G, B or T?
We have to do the same thing.

We have to look at all the circumstances
involved in our sex.
We have to decide
if the circumstances of our sex
make it good or bad.

We will talk about some guidelines for that later. The point here is that: sex is not automatically sin.

We have to decide,
we have to make a judgment.
We have to take a look at it
and see if there are any factors
that make it good or bad.
We call that judgment
“forming our conscience.”
Conscience at looking at all sides,
and deciding whether something is good or bad.
(See my blog: Conscience.)
( Fr. Richard's personal blog: http://richardrmickley.blogspot.com/)

We can’t run down to the church and ask Fr. Garcia if having sex with our boss is a sin. We have to make a decision about its possible good effects, and possible bad effects. Almost always it seems to be automatically bad. But look at the circumstances. Maybe you and your boss were in a relationship long before you became boss and employee, for example? But what would be the bad effects under most circumstances? Would there be pressures at promotion time? Would there be power issues? Would there be justice and rights issues? Would somebody else deserve the promotion more than the boss’s lover? Etc, etc.

In summary, then, sin is not an act on a list. Sin is deciding to do something that separates you from the love of God and the “love of neighbor” because we know from our judgment of the situation that more harm than good will come from the act, maybe even somebody will be hurt.

Retreat meditation.

Email to saintaelred@gmail.com the following comments:

Talk 1:
Have I ever been a victim of “Moral Slavery”?
If so, Do I want to continue to be a victim of moral slavery?
3. How can I shake loose the chains of moral slavery?


Talk 2: “How do we know if our sex is good or bad?”

Now let us take a quick look at some guidelines for judging what is good or bad in sex for LGBT people.

We have already established that

same-sex sex is not automatically bad.

We don’t have time to go into the whole story of human sexuality, or natural human sexual attraction. It’s already something that everybody should know is a fact:

some people have a natural human sexual attraction
to persons of the same gender.
It’s there. It’s a fact.
Psychologists and psychiatrists have agreed on that
since the time of Jose Rizal.

So, how do we decide when it is bad or good, or even better?


Let’s look at a sex ethic
which applies equally to everybody:

to a man with a woman, a man with a man, or a woman with a woman, or a transgender person with any person of his or her choice.

The starting point for this sex ethic is that

sex is good,

the opposite of the “Sex is bad” theory.

This sex ethic has three stages. They are

GOOD, BETTER, BEST. (Not bad, badder, baddest)

We quote and we follow a world famous theologian, Fr. Norman Pittenger.

[Imagine a ladder with rungs marked: GOOD, BETTER, BEST. Think of stepping up each rung at the appropriate time: good, better best.]

1. All sex is GOOD,
if it is not harmful or forceful.

Therefore when a person forms their conscience, they decide
is this sexual act harmful?
What bad effects will or can come from it?
Will it treat somebody as an object to be used or abused?
And then, will it be adult and consensual?

Or will there be force in this act? Is it a case where one partner is not willing?
Will there be any factors in which one partner has ‘power’ over the other
thus making the “force” more subtle?
This power can come from a boss? A parent, a counselor,
a teacher, a priest, a doctor, or other professional, or a politician?

The conclusion is:

sex is bad if it is harmful or forceful.
We have to form our conscience,
make a clear judgment about that.


2. Some sex is BETTER,
if it is accompanied by love and caring.

A rule of thumb to help decide if a sexual experience is “good” or “better” could be to ask yourself as you are dressing to leave the scene: “Am I leaving a body which I have used for good sex? Or am I leaving a person whom I have LOVED in better sex?”


3. Some sex is BEST
if it is in a committed,
loving, enduring relationship.

So, it’s that simple. You can judge if it is good, better, or best. You can judge it to be bad if it harmful or forceful. The more love there is, the better it becomes. That’s why it is so untruthful for anybody to condemn our love.

The same guidelines apply to all people
and all sexual orientations.


Cyber retreat meditation: emal to saintaewlred@gmail.com
1. Is recreational sex a sin? Why? Why not? How? How not?
2. What is an example of “better” sex with loving and caring? (and/or the opposite, sex that is not loving or caring?)
3. What makes “best” sex “best”? Why can we say that? Why is that true?


Talk 3: “Claiming Our Right to Spirituality”

Now we move up the ladder of life.

We have talked about what is sin and what is not sin. We have talked about what makes sex good, better, or best.

Let’s look now at how all this affects our relationship with God.
Surely, LGBT people are included in the “redemption” which Jesus accomplished on the Cross through the whole sequence of his death and resurrection.

But what are the special factors which have cut off LGBT people from the full realization and enjoyment of the “Redemption” which is the right of every LGBT person?

There is a special factor which brings a problem to thousands of LGBT people. There are more than 8 million LGBT people in this country. How many of them have been told “God will zap you into hell” (for anything from masturbation to loving a person of the same gender)?

Remember the story of little Jason and his brother Andy that we heard about above? I invite you to share very quickly any experience you have had, similar to the one Jason and Andy had.
Email to saintaelred@gmail.com


Thank you. That is why we need to talk about claiming our right to being spiritual persons. Of course, it’s our right. It’s part of being human. But the truth has been taken away from so many of us. We deserve to have the joy of knowing God’s love and friendship. We should not let anybody try to take that away from us.

Somehow when people talk about “good people” or “‘holy people,” they seem to pass over good and holy LGBT people. And, by the way, being “holy” is just plain being in God’s friendship.

In other words we have to “claim” the love and friendship of God which is there (available) and rightfully ours. And we have the right to it just as much as anybody else.

God loves each of us unconditionally.
God does not say,
“Okay, Gay, I will love you
IF you stop doing that sex stuff.”
God is not like that.
God loves us with no ifs,
and God loves us LGBT people unconditionally.
God embraces us, hugs us,
reaches out to us with all-loving arms,
and nobody can take that away from us.

St. Paul put it as clearly as possible in Romans 8 of the Christian Scripture when he said there is no power anywhere that can separate us from the love of God.

The sad part is that we have allowed “people’” to separate us from God’s love, by not standing up for our right to the love of God which is always with us, waiting, reaching out, available to us. Jesus said, “Come to me ALL who are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest.” He did not say, “But that does not mean you naughty LGBT people.” He said ALL are welcome to come to him.

Cyber Retreat meditation: email to saintaelred@gmail.com

Have I ever believed that God shuns LGBT people?
Do I still believe God’s shuns, condemns, and rejects LGBT people?
Do I believe God loves me unconditionally and embraces me in love and friendship and smiles upon my same-sex love which is not harmful or forceful.,






Talk 4: “A Better Spiritual Life”

In regard to “morality,” above we talked about good, better, and best in our sex life.

In our spiritual life
we can also establish a concept
of good, better and best.

First of all, let’s look at a definition. What is spiritual life? What is being spiritual? How do we have spirituality? Does everybody have it? How does it fit into our every day life?

Here in the Order of St. Aelred
we speak of “wholeness” or wholistic health.

A human life is life the way God always intended it to be when God gave us human life. And that is:

a life with its four components
– all working together,
all working in harmony.

[Refer to diagram of the logo of OSAe on our website).] So, looking at the diagram in our logo, you see a human life, a person, represented by a circle with four components in equal segments. They start with the letters IPSE. Ipse happens to be the Latin word for self or person. A complete person has all four of these components in balance and harmony.

Intellectual.

A fully human person will have their intellectual component functioning above the level of TV cartoons or computer games. (I can think; I do think; I will think.)

Physical.

One’s physical health and well being will be a matter of concern and attention.

Spiritual.

One cannot be a fully human person unless one’s spiritual capabilities are part of the wholeness of one’s life.

The spiritual component of one’s life
is fundamentally
pursuing meaning and purpose in one’s life
and what one does in life.

Animals are lacking this component, and cannot seek meaning and purpose. They cannot acknowledge their origin or their destiny. Human beings can see their position in this world as creatures who came from a Creator, and they can find meaning and purpose in structuring and living their life in accordance with the meaning and purpose of human life in the plan of the Creator. (Fulfillment, happiness, friendship…)

Emotional.

And finally a human life will have an emotional component in which there will be occasions to be mad, sad, glad or scared; and a fully functioning person will experience these emotions, but will keep them in balance and harmony with the other components.

But What about sexuality?
Then, you ask,
where does sexuality come in?

That is a very important question because our sexuality is also a very integral and valuable and wonderful and important element in our human life. But it is not a separate component.

Our human sexuality resides in our whole person.
One does not just have
a sexual penis or a sexual vagina.
Human sexual behavior is characterized
by being fully immersed
in the intellectual, physical,
spiritual, and emotional parts of us.

An animal can, and usually does, just copulate and walk away. It cannot think about the meaning, purpose, value, or implications of the physical sex act. Human beings are whole person whose sexuality resides in the wholeness of their wholistic being: IPSE.

So, never forgetting how wonderful sex is,

we also look to the health and well being
of all components of our wholeness.
The one that LGBT people seem to be cut off from
is spiritual wholeness.
For many, that is because they are told
they cannot be spiritual and holy
or even good
because they are going to hell.

Then some LGBT people believe that; and they just give up or throw out any effort to be “spiritual.” Thank God most LGBT people don’t really accept or believe that any more, but still they don’t have a positive program for being who they can be with the joys and fulfillment of a life complete with all four components, including a healthy spiritual life.

A good person – a person with a good spiritual life of not harming or forcing others in sex or any thing else, is a good person. So the next step up the ladder is:

We could think of moving up
from a good
to a better spiritual life.

A better spiritual life – beyond simply not being bad – is:

one that has an erect and stable spine
to keep it strong.
That strong and stable spine is
PRAYER, STUDY, AND ACTION.

Prayer

Again, there is a wide variety of possibilities for prayer. It could embrace the most sophisticated forms of meditation, it could embrace the several times a day common prayer in praise of Allah by Moslems as the face Mecca, or it can be for any of us as simple as conversation with Allah in the simplest everyday language. It can include Mass and the sacraments; it can involve prayer rallies, and retreats. It can be whatever is meaningful and nurturing for the individual. That’s the key. There should be a means, method, instrument for nurturing one’s spiritual life. So, we label that “prayer” as a general turn for some exercise, discipline, or regime that forms the spine of one’s spiritual life of contact and friendship with God..

Study

Then, there is study, which can be very very informal, or very very formal. It can consist of some uplifting reading that is related to one’s meaning and purpose in life. It can mean seeking out opportunities for “intellectual/spiritual” growth, something that gives more depth to one’s spirituality.

Action

And finally, there is action. One’s spiritual component is not nourished by “contemplation” alone. Even cloistered nuns who spend many many hours a day on their knees or in spiritual reading, have some form of action to carry out their plan for spiritual growth.

Well, we are not cloistered nuns. We live and love and have sex in a real world, with our feet on the ground or in bed, but not floating on the wings of prayer to the holy of holies 24 hours a day. So, what is a practical, helpful, joyful plan for me, for you, for each of us in his or her own way to move from the level of not being “bad” to the better level, or having our spiritual life in harmony and balance with our whole selves, nourished by a plan that’s right for me or for you.

Our spiritual life will be good, if it is not bad,
Our spiritual life will be better if it held erect by Prayer, Study, and Action.

Cyber Retreat meditation (Email to saintaelred@gmail.com )

You are invited to reflect upon your wholistic life.
1. Is your IPSE in balance and harmony? Do you have “health and well being in I, P, S, and E? Estimate what percentage of well being you have in each component. Which is highest? Which lowest? Are they in harmony and balance (preferably, all equal)?
2. Write a paragraph marked prayer, and one marked study, and one marked action, outlining what you would like to do to have an erect and stable spiritual life, one that is better than “not bad.”



Talk 5: “Enriching and energizing the spiritual life”

The next level, the next step up the ladder of spiritual well being and spiritual joy is comparable to the expression of the “best” in our sex life.

You can be good if you are “not bad.” You can be better if you nourish your spiritual life with prayer, study and action. You can then,

Experience the “best,”
if you allow the fruits of the Spirit
to operate in your life.

As always when we move higher on the ladder, the rewards are greater. In the spiritual life the rewards of the next step are the wonders of living in love, joy, and peace.

St. Paul offers us so much spiritual depth in his letters in the Christian Scriptures, that in a lifetime few people absorb all the joys and blessings of the potential that is possible for “spiritual depth.”

When St. Paul speaks of the “fruits of the Spirit,” he gives us a glimpse of the spiritual potential that we can claim if we truly desire to move beyond the good and the better to the best.

In Galatians 5:22 St. Paul tells us when we are on this level, we will have a life characterized by

love, joy, peace,
patience (long suffering),
kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
humility (gentleness),
and self control.

[Work silently and alone on studying your own life for a few minutes and evaluating your experience of the fruits of the Spirit.

These fruits of the Spirit are for LGBT people, too. Nobody can take them away from us. We have only to claim them for our own as we progress on the path from good, to better, to best.

Cyber Retreat meditation: email to saintaelred@gmail.com

Evaluate your experience of the fruits of the Spirit (one by one) on a scale of one to ten.
What would you like to do?



Talk 6: “FRIENDSHIP: The ultimate”

We cannot have a complete picture
of human wholeness and human fulfillment
without having a well-rounded experience
of “friendship.”

St. Paul, as always, gives us some wonderful insights into what the life of Christians is intended to be. In 2 Corinthians, he points out that Jesus, by dying for us on that first Good Friday, changed us into God’s friends, and he emphasizes that God wants all human persons to be friends of God.

And look at what he says. “God does not keep an account of our sins, but indeed does everything to bring us into God’s friendship.” St. Paul reminds us that if God so much wanted us to be God’s friends, we, too have the task of bringing others to God’s friendship. And we know from other Scriptures that the best way of doing this is by being friends with other people.

Here

in the Order of St. Aelred,
we are inspired by the spirituality of St. Aelred.
St. Aelred wrote two notable books
on love and friendship.

For these we are indebted to him.

His definition of friendship is a masterpiece.

We give our own translation of St. Aelred's definition of Friendship (from his book, Spiritual Friendship). Like the famous definition of Cicero, it was written in Latin. Most translations use big words. We try to portray the true meaning in simple words.

“Friendship is
oneness of Heart, Mind and Spirit,
in things human and divine,
with mutual esteem
and kindly feelings
of approval and support.”

In Mirror of Love (Speculum Caritatis), he gives us a delightfully human description of what a friend is.

St. Aelred indeed gives us a wonderful model for true friendship, that is having a true friend with love.
A True Friend

It is such a great joy to have the consolation of someone’s affection;
· someone to whom I am deeply united in the bonds of love;
· someone with whom my weary spirit can find rest;
· and to whom I may pour out my heart;
· someone whose conversation is as sweet as a song in the tiring times of daily life;
· someone whose presence is a harbor of calm when my life is rocked on the choppy seas of life;
· someone to whom I can lay bare all my thoughts and secrets;
· someone whose spirit will give me the comforting kiss that heals all the sickness of my troubled heart;
· one who will cry with me when I am upset and rejoice with me when I am happy;
· the one I can talk to when I need advice or good judgment;
· someone so closely bound to my heart and soul that even when far away is together with me in spirit;
· when the world falls asleep all around us, our souls will be embraced in absolute peace;
· our hearts will lie quiet together, united in our oneness, as the grace of the Holy Spirit flows over us;
· with heart and mind together, we are bound by the closest ties of love.

His description of a Friend is a guideline for a truly human and beautiful friendship.

Our purpose for pondering these selections from his writing is to point to an ultimate enjoyment of the gifts of life and love. These, indeed, are gifts which lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and transgenders are fully entitled to. Of course, they are part of our heritage even though some elements of society (church and culture) would try to deprive us of them.

For a moment we are going to talk about friendship and describe it as the ultimate element, at once wonderful and essential to a fully human ultimate experience of the gift of human life.

The bottom line, then, is that
nothing is more essential
to a full and rich
and beautiful spiritual life
than friendship with God
and with “one another.”

We briefly introduced St. Aelred’s definition of “Friendship” and his description of “A True Friend,” to open up to us the beautiful richness of what friendship can be, and as such it is the essence of holiness.

Cyber Retreat Meditation (email to saintaelred@gmail.com )

1. Ponder for a moment: Have I ever had a friendship which would fit the definition of St. Aelred for a friendship? (Note: not the description of a friend; save that for a few minutes.) Now share if you have ever had a friendship that fits this definition. Would you like to have a friendship like this?


2. Now think of, say, your best friend, or your lover, and then “evaluate” your friendship with that person on the basis of the points in the description of St. Aelred

You may comment about what you would like to do to make your friendship good, better, or best.


Talk 7: “Encouraging holiness
in our fellow LGBT people”

In my family, when I was young, the oldest of 10 kids, I can never remember in my whole life, eating a meal alone. When mom finished cooking, she called dad, and all of us kids, and we sat down to the table together to enjoy mom’s good cooking.

I thought that was the way it was in all the families in the world. I did not know then, that some families don’t even have a table, or food. All my uncles and aunts had large families. They ate together – all except uncle Ed’s family. There were 13 kids and Uncle Ed and Aunt Hilda, and their table simply was not big enough for 15 people. They had to eat in two shifts, even though their farm was the biggest one for miles and miles around and they discovered oil on it and Uncle Ed made a lot of money from farming and from oil wells on his farms. When he died many years later, he left a million dollars as an inheritance to each of his kids. But when they had kids, they all ate together.

That’s what Jesus and his beloved and the other 11 were doing when they gathered in an upper room in Jerusalem the night before that first Good Friday. They had a meal together.

One of them, the youngest, had the privilege of lying with his head on the heart of Jesus when they reclined at dinner. That one was called the beloved disciple, the one whom Jesus loved. Yes, the Bible tells us eight times that Jesus was there with his lover when he gave us that special way of remembering him that Christians call Holy Communion. The 12, including the special one, were all together with Jesus in a loving meal when he gave himself to them the night before he died.

So, I don’t want anybody to tell me that we LGBT people cannot go to communion because we love someone of the same sex. The first communion was celebrated by Jesus practically in the arms of his beloved. And it was in a meal.

I am telling this story, just to remind us that Holy Communion is for us Christian LGBT people, it is ours, too, and nobody can take it away from us. Jesus is still telling is, “Come to me, all you who are heavily burdened, carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”

I went to party recently where 20 or so people were playing games together, singing together, eating together, and in general spent some time really connected to one another. It seemed a lot different than watching chickens or pigs eating together. Another day I went to the mall. I was surrounded by hundreds of people. But I was alone. Each was in his or her isolated iPod world. I was surrounded by hundreds, yet I was alone.

You can pray alone.
Or you can choose to be more “human,”
in togetherness in this world.
The choice is yours.

Moslems can pray alone, or they can take their prayer mats and join with their fellow Moslems in the daily prayers to Allah together in the Mosque.

If you are Christian, you have to make your own choice about accepting Jesus invitation to Holy Communion, but my advice is not to let anybody tell you that you don’t belong there. Jesus invites you, and me, and all of us LGBT people. He did not make any rules to keep people away from him. He just said, “Come to me.”

Cyber Retreat Meditation email to saintaelred@gmail.com

Have I ever felt that I was excluded, as a LGBT Christian, from Mass and the Sacraments?
In my search for “true spirituality” what do I see as good, better, best for me?
What would I like to do as a result of the reflections of this retreat.


FINAL PRAYER.: Closing exercise

Pray this prayer, from your heart and soul, pray it meditatively.
I pray with St. Aelred, “O Good Jesus, let your voice sound in my ears, that my heart and mind and inmost soul may learn of your love, and the very depths of my heart be joined to you who are my greatest delight and joy.”

With deep gratitude I realize that you have chosen me to make this retreat. I am here because you selected me and gave me the privilege of living these few moments of special love and reflection during this retreat. I praise you as I face with courage the opportunities and challenges you have given me during this retreat. I pray for all those around the world who experienced this retreat. Along with my gratitude, I ask for your continued presence and power to carry out the resolutions I have made and grow closer to you in the friendship you offer me as I strive to live, under the mantle of your unconditional love, in true friendship with those whom you have given me as friends. Thank you, Jesus.

Then reflect again on the following:
1. What line or thought was most significant for me?
2. What line or thought in the retreat was most significant for me?

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