Condoms, Divorce and Congratulations

Congratulations! Mabuhay ang Pilipinas!

It finally has happened!

So far, in the very first press account, three law makers have shown themselves to be brave, courageous, independent, and full of integrity!

For years, the Philippines and the Catholic island of Malta have been the only countries in the world which do not give residents the right to divorce.

Now Malta is on the verge of granting divorce rights to its people. That leaves only the Philippines (and the Vatican), the last standout refusing to give this right.

Until now lawmakers of the Philippines have cringed in fear of the power of the hierarchy at the next election and have not dared speak the word “divorce” in the halls of congress.

Now three, at least, in the first press mention of the possibility of divorce here, three at least have boldly expressed approval of the idea.

Why divorce? Do all the nations of the earth have divorce to defy the Catholic bishops? Do they have divorce to destroy the family? Do they have it because it is bad? Is it not logical that they have it because there is a human need for it? Some couples simply find themselves incompatible. Well, it’s not so simple when children are involved. Does it save the children? Does it save the family to force incompatible people to stay together? Does this unpleasant situation help the children?

Our hats are off to the first three names mentioned in the Inquirer article today, “After Malta vote, House body tackles divorce bill.” It takes guts, and they got it.

Gabriela Rep. Luz Ilagan

Speaker Sonny Belmonte

Senator Pia Cayetano

Why is this “heterosexual” issue important to us? It is important because it is a big blister on the landscape caused by sex-negative theology promoted primarily by one hierarchy and imposed upon the whole nation, people of every religion and non-religion. And to think, it still is not clear to them that there is a human need for it demonstrated by the fact that every nation on the face of the earth recognizes the need except the Catholic hierarchy of the Philippines who will fight tooth and nail to keep it that way.

There was a time when that world-wide hierarchy prevented every nation on earth from recognizing the love and relationship of same-sex couples. Now a growing number of countries, including Catholic Spain, with a courageous legislature, have granted their people equal marriage and more have granted recognition of same-sex relationships.

Meanwhile, the battle of the condoms continues in the Philippine Congress — and the shame and guilt of no condoms, no masturbation, no premarital sex, and no same-sex love, and, and, and… no, no, no… And how nice it was to see a word on this in the same newspaper today from our long time friend, the reclusive Margie Holmes.


Time bishops learned from the poor
Philippine Daily Inquirer
11:19 pm | Monday, May 30th, 2011

THIS is in reference to the comment of Archbishop Ramon Arguelles, “Will you be calm if you are held at gunpoint?” (“Cool it? Bishop says Malacañang provoked Church,” Inquirer, 5/17/ 11)

Perhaps the good Archbishop should reflect on the fact that the Roman Catholic Church has held the poor of this country at gunpoint for decades over the issue of contraception, and learn from the poor’s long-suffering calmness in the face of adversity.—MARGARITA HOLMES and JEREMY BAER, Quezon City


Yes, it is true that 3 million Frenchmen or Maltese or Filipinos cannot vote to make wrong right. It don’t work that way. What’s bad is bad, and rape and child abuse will always be wrong. But if every nation on earth sees a need for divorce, it’s time to look at it from a different angle — starting with common sense.

Remember the three steps of forming conscience are:

Step one: Listen to the teaching voice of your church.

Step two: Listen to God’s truth in human nature and in the situation.

Step three: Make a JUDGMENT of what’s right.

And that is a basic human right which apparently Speaker Belmonte, Senator Cayetano and Rep. Ilagan are exercising. Congratulations!

Surely, surely we will hear more about this. Surely there are more than three!


After Malta vote, House body tackles divorce bill
Philippine Daily Inquirer
3:16 am | Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

MANILA, Philippines—Overwhelmingly Roman Catholic Malta has voted to legalize divorce, Prime Minister Lawrence Gonzi announced on Sunday after a referendum, leaving the Philippines as the only country where it is banned.

The vote in Malta spurred moves in the House of Representatives to legalize divorce amid an already widening split between the influential Catholic hierarchy and the administration of bachelor President Benigno Aquino III over a population control measure.

Gonzi, who campaigned against the introduction of divorce ahead of Saturday’s nonbinding referendum, said it was now up to the Mediterranean archipelago’s parliament to legalize the dissolution of marriage.

“This is not the result that I wished for, but the will of the people has to be respected and parliament should enact a law for the introduction of divorce,” said the conservative prime minister.

The divorce measure was passed by a majority of 53.2 percent of those who cast ballots, although nearly a quarter of eligible voters did not bother to go to the polls, election officials said.

Apart from the Vatican city-state, Malta is one of only two countries in the world—the Philippines is the other—that bans divorce. Chile was the last country to legalize divorce in 2004 after overwhelming public pressure.

Saturday’s nonbinding referendum asked the country’s 306,000 mainly Catholic voters whether parliament should introduce a new law that would allow couples to obtain a divorce after four years of separation.

Separation widespread

Legal separation is widespread in the European Union’s smallest member state, but there are many legal obstacles to re-marrying.

The Church, which looms large over the archipelago where 95 percent of the population claim the faith, did not campaign officially in the referendum.

However, Valletta’s Archbishop Paul Cremona had warned churchgoers in a letter they faced a choice between building and destroying family values.

“By this vote, the citizen will either build or destroy. A choice in favor of permanent marriage is an act of faith in the family, built upon a bond of love which cannot be severed,” said the letter, which was read out at Masses.

In addition, priests have reportedly threatened to refuse communion to those who vote “yes” in the referendum.

Philippine moves

Following the vote in Malta, the Philippine House committee on revision of laws announced it would begin on Wednesday discussions on a bill seeking to legalize divorce.

“Let us not keep our country in the dark ages,” said Gabriela Rep. Luz Ilagan. “I appeal to my colleagues in Congress to let the legislative mill run its course on the divorce bill without further delay and give Filipino couples in irreparable and unhappy marriages this option.”

Speaker Feliciano Belmonte, a widower, told reporters that he favored the move. “It is very difficult to let two people who cannot live together continue to live together.”

Expand annulment

Sen. Pia Cayetano, chair of the Senate committee on youth, women and family relations, said it was time to expand the definition of annulment of marriage granted under Philippine law on grounds of psychological incapacity.

“Call it divorce, call it another animal (but) there has to be some change because the reality is, it is one of the discriminatory practices we have (against women),” she said.

But Senate Majority Leader Vicente Sotto III is adamant: “Let’s not get into the habit of copying what other countries are doing.”

Not a question of votes

The Philippine Catholic hierarchy, echoing the position of the Church in Malta, announced that it would oppose any attempt to introduce divorce in the country through a referendum as the Mediterranean country did.

“Referendums are merely a political, not a moral exercise,” said Archbishop Ramon Arguelles, head of the bishops’ Episcopal Commission on Family and Life.

“What is right or wrong is not dependent on how many voted for it,” said Archbishop Emeritus Oscar Cruz, judicial vicar of the National Appellate Matrimonial Tribunal. “What is moral or not moral is not a question of popular vote.”

Cruz is happy that the Philippines remains to be the only country without divorce.

“It means that the Filipino cultural values are still solid, that we are profamily, which is a wonder because you cannot find that anywhere else in the world,” he said. With reports from AFP, Cynthia D. Balana, Gil C. Cabacungan Jr., Christian V. Esguerra and Jocelyn R. Uy